He's the Boss
If you are a man who has abused your power, experiment with finding ways to use your power to make your wife better off. Start putting her and your relationship first—not in a groveling, supplicating, servile way of course, but in a way that makes it more obvious that you care about her. The smile on her face will be plenty worth the effort. And the trust in you that she will develop will give you more power still.
No matter what mistakes you have made, you can make changes that make all the difference.
A man should only want to take charge in any situation if he believes that his strengths enable him to utilize the creativity of the wife he is in charge of to make both her and himself better off.
This desire to take charge of your wife is rooted in respect for your partner’s capabilities, not the need to inhibit or hurt them.
Dominance applied with kindness and love will powerfully engender respect and adoration in your wife. Being in charge can be a tremendously moral and exciting adventure for you both. The more you are able to be firmly in charge but kindly so, the more your wife will respond positively to your leadership, and the more you will enjoy your power over her. Both of you will naturally want to be the best you can be for one another and for yourselves. This striving to be the best for one another is very pleasurable. My beautiful taken-in-hand wife has enabled me to feel that pleasure. I recommend it.